Depression harmfully affects every aspect of our lives, plus our relationship - when one partner is depressed, the relationship can experience poorly. This is a great shame because a good relationship is very therapeutic for someone with depression. When we are short we need love, support and nearness more than ever - even if we are not good in this show.
Sex and productivity
We do not know enough about the chemical changes that occur in the brain during depression and little research has been done on how these changes affect sex.
From a clinical perspective, however, it is clear that depressive illness tends to affect all bodily systems, dislocating them and often delayed.
This effect is most pronounced in terms of sleep, which is always interference.
But there may be adverse effects on any activity that requires enthusiasm, spontaneity and coordination - and that includes sex.
So many people who are depressed tend to lose interest in sex.
It is true that this is not always so depressed and some people have managed to maintain a normal sex life - sometimes even found that sex is the only thing that gives them comfort and reassurance.
In men, the total attenuation of brain activity causes fatigue and hopelessness, which may be associated with loss of libido and erection problems.
In women, this reduced activity of the brain tends to be associated with lack of interest in sex, and often with difficulty reaching orgasm.
All these problems tend to decrease as depressive illness gets better. Indeed, renewed interest in sex can be the first signs of recovery.
Sex and antidepressants
This is not just a disease that affects the sexual life of a person - antidepressant drugs like Prozac can interfere with sexual function.
One of the most common side effects is interference in the process of orgasm, so it is delayed or not happen at all.
If this happens - and you tend to have and enjoy sex, you should ask your doctor about changing medications.
How depressed people can help themselves and their relationship
Some days will seem better than others. On your better days, trying to make an effort to show love and appreciation for your partner.
Try to go for a walk every day, preferably with your partner. Walking not only out of pure air, which will give you a bit of a lift, but like other forms of exercise releases endorphins in the brain. These are "happy" chemicals that quickly raise your mood. And there is increasing evidence to suggest that exercise can be as good for combating depression as any antidepressant.
Even on my worst day, try to notice the happy moments as a bird singing or new flowers blooming in your garden. Try to train yourself to notice three of those heart warming moments of the day.
May consist of an odd relationship with food while you are depressed (you could have a small appetite or comfort eating constantly), but try to eat five pieces of fruit a day. It's a caring thing to do for yourself is good for physical and mental health.
Listen to music that is important to you.
Have faith that depression will pass and you will enjoy life again.
Even if you do not feel like a complete sex made efforts to have a hug. If you are worried that cuddling will project full sex when they want it, just tell your partner that you do not feel like having sex, but that really would like to cuddle. If you do this, you feel much better. Touch and proximity can keep the relationship intact.
How to help a depressed partner
Do not say that you understand what goes through your partner. You do not. Instead of saying "I do not know exactly how you feel, but I'm trying very hard to understand and help."
Many people who are depressed, lose interest in sex. Try to remember that this loss of interest probably is not personal but related to the disease.
Do not despair. Some days you will feel your love for your partner does not seem to make no difference to them at all. But hang there. Your love and continuous support should be of great help in convincing your partner to his or her value.
Whether encourage your partner to get all the professional help. Nowadays there are plenty of alternatives to antidepressants. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), for example, becomes more readily available to the NHS. Many GP practices can also provide CBT with Internet programs. They may have good effect very quickly, in many cases.
Try to act as if your partner is recovering from a serious physical illness or surgery. Give a lot of tender loving care. But do not expect to be improved quickly.
Do something nice for yourself. Is about a depressed person is very draining, so be sure to take care of yourself. Have some time alone, or get a movie or to see friends. Depressed people often want to stay home and do nothing, but if you do this, you will get terribly sick.
Remember that this period in your life will pass and that your partner is the same person under depression, he or she was before.
Try to take some classes together. Most depressed people feel improvement in their souls, if they do something active. And doing something that will increase heart rate - such as sports or dancing - can help you too.
What is likely to happen if your partner is depressed?
Depressed people usually feel withdrawn. They do not feel they can raise enough energy to pursue their normal routine, do things with family or even notice when their partners are careful.
This can quickly lead to non-depressed partner feeling that he or she is in the way, unwanted or unloved. It can be easy to misinterpret the low moods such as hostility, or as evidence that the depressed person wants the relationship.
Frankly, it's really hard to remain calm and confident when you have that you know is acting weird and seems so unhappy. So if you find your partner depressed real pain, try to get the heart from the fact that it is natural.
As a partner of the depressed person is very difficult.
So even if you are at the end of your wits, because your loved one has lost the ability to concentrate on what you say, or to raise a smile or appreciate some of the best moments in life, try to accept that All these things are part of the disease.
Depressed people usually feel withdrawn. They do not feel they can raise enough energy to pursue their normal routine, do things with family or even notice when their partners are careful.
This can quickly lead to non-depressed partner feeling that he or she is in the way, unwanted or unloved. It can be easy to misinterpret the low moods such as hostility, or as evidence that the depressed person wants the relationship.
Frankly, it's really hard to remain calm and confident when you have that you know is acting weird and seems so unhappy. So if you find your partner depressed real pain, try to get the heart from the fact that it is natural.
As a partner of the depressed person is very difficult.
So even if you are at the end of your wits, because your loved one has lost the ability to concentrate on what you say, or to raise a smile or appreciate some of the best moments in life, try to accept that All these things are part of the disease.
Sex and productivity
We do not know enough about the chemical changes that occur in the brain during depression and little research has been done on how these changes affect sex.
From a clinical perspective, however, it is clear that depressive illness tends to affect all bodily systems, dislocating them and often delayed.
This effect is most pronounced in terms of sleep, which is always interference.
But there may be adverse effects on any activity that requires enthusiasm, spontaneity and coordination - and that includes sex.
So many people who are depressed tend to lose interest in sex.
It is true that this is not always so depressed and some people have managed to maintain a normal sex life - sometimes even found that sex is the only thing that gives them comfort and reassurance.
In men, the total attenuation of brain activity causes fatigue and hopelessness, which may be associated with loss of libido and erection problems.
In women, this reduced activity of the brain tends to be associated with lack of interest in sex, and often with difficulty reaching orgasm.
All these problems tend to decrease as depressive illness gets better. Indeed, renewed interest in sex can be the first signs of recovery.
Sex and antidepressants
This is not just a disease that affects the sexual life of a person - antidepressant drugs like Prozac can interfere with sexual function.
One of the most common side effects is interference in the process of orgasm, so it is delayed or not happen at all.
If this happens - and you tend to have and enjoy sex, you should ask your doctor about changing medications.
How depressed people can help themselves and their relationship
Some days will seem better than others. On your better days, trying to make an effort to show love and appreciation for your partner.
Try to go for a walk every day, preferably with your partner. Walking not only out of pure air, which will give you a bit of a lift, but like other forms of exercise releases endorphins in the brain. These are "happy" chemicals that quickly raise your mood. And there is increasing evidence to suggest that exercise can be as good for combating depression as any antidepressant.
Even on my worst day, try to notice the happy moments as a bird singing or new flowers blooming in your garden. Try to train yourself to notice three of those heart warming moments of the day.
May consist of an odd relationship with food while you are depressed (you could have a small appetite or comfort eating constantly), but try to eat five pieces of fruit a day. It's a caring thing to do for yourself is good for physical and mental health.
Listen to music that is important to you.
Have faith that depression will pass and you will enjoy life again.
Even if you do not feel like a complete sex made efforts to have a hug. If you are worried that cuddling will project full sex when they want it, just tell your partner that you do not feel like having sex, but that really would like to cuddle. If you do this, you feel much better. Touch and proximity can keep the relationship intact.
How to help a depressed partner
Do not say that you understand what goes through your partner. You do not. Instead of saying "I do not know exactly how you feel, but I'm trying very hard to understand and help."
Many people who are depressed, lose interest in sex. Try to remember that this loss of interest probably is not personal but related to the disease.
Do not despair. Some days you will feel your love for your partner does not seem to make no difference to them at all. But hang there. Your love and continuous support should be of great help in convincing your partner to his or her value.
Whether encourage your partner to get all the professional help. Nowadays there are plenty of alternatives to antidepressants. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), for example, becomes more readily available to the NHS. Many GP practices can also provide CBT with Internet programs. They may have good effect very quickly, in many cases.
Try to act as if your partner is recovering from a serious physical illness or surgery. Give a lot of tender loving care. But do not expect to be improved quickly.
Do something nice for yourself. Is about a depressed person is very draining, so be sure to take care of yourself. Have some time alone, or get a movie or to see friends. Depressed people often want to stay home and do nothing, but if you do this, you will get terribly sick.
Remember that this period in your life will pass and that your partner is the same person under depression, he or she was before.
Try to take some classes together. Most depressed people feel improvement in their souls, if they do something active. And doing something that will increase heart rate - such as sports or dancing - can help you too.
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